Posted by News Express | 17 October 2019 | 460 times
Are there different socio-cultural perceptions of marriage between the two genders?
Are men expected to be wealthy, educated, and established before marriage?
Do women need to be passive, less educated, or illiterate to be considered a valuable wife?
Do the society approve of the wedding between very old men and much younger women?
Do women and girls posit that there will be no respect for the husband unless he is at least 20 years older than his wife?
Are couples of same-age or older wife-younger husband the subject of community scorn?
Should there be an income or financial worth difference between a couple, where one spouse is more affluent than the other, is a wealthier man favoured than a wealthier woman?
Is it unacceptable to rent an apartment to an unmarried woman?
Does that discrimination exist for unmarried men?
Are women required to hand over their earnings and property to the spouse?
Does the society rebuke a man who grants his wife access to his earnings, with authorization for her to spend of his income without her seeking prior permission on each occasion?
Do women consider self well placed, if married to a man who provides his family, i.e. wife and children, with bare sustenance?
Prior to expenditures of her own finances and resources, do women feel the need to explain justifications and seek approval from their spouse?
Is there a bias against unmarried women?
Is an unmarried, divorced, or widowed daughter residing with her family perceived as a liability, whereas there is no objection to such from an unmarried son?
Is a woman expected to neglect her parents and siblings on marriage, while her husband continues to care for his?
Do single men receive career promotions, whereas an unmarried woman will have her marital status considered prior to advancing in the office rank?
In education, are there certain subjects or courses that women and girls are not taught?
Are there topics within a course that must not be taught to women in the community?
In many communities, the response to several of these questions will largely be a resounding YES.
Men and women are expected to be wedded by a certain age.
The pressure on women, however, commence much earlier in age.
Does being of a particular ethnicity increase the probability of a woman experiencing discrimination?
For instance, do women suffer discrimination at work, university, and other social facilities, primarily because they are of that ethnic nationality and are expected to confirm to whatever behavioural distortions that are common among the wider community?
Are the families of Igbo males less willing to accuse their non-Igbo daughter-in-law of having a hand in the death of their son?
Do the same families subject an Igbo daughter-in-law to horrendous funeral rites of their son, including compelling her to hold the hand of her deceased husband and swear she did not play a part in his death, in the name of Omenala?
Do Hausa-Fulani males prefer to employ non-Hausa-Fulani females, on the premise that the culture requires Hausa-Fulani women to be uneducated and unemployed?
NOTE: This is in reference to facilities owned or administered by persons who import the culture into the workplace.
Are women of races and ethnicities far removed from such atmospheres more likely to receive a fair hearing in job offers, career placements and promotions, accommodation rentals, and so on?
Do Yoruba males expect Yoruba female employees to be less hardworking than non-Yoruba female employees?
In these and more cultures, the ideal wife must remain a submissive woman, irrespective of the Condition of her marital life.
However, the ideal husband is not required to remain the sole income earner, should he find himself out of a job.
Finally, and of tremendous value: What is the role of women in the sustenance of these cultural biases against the female gender?
•Umm Sulaim is the Publisher of Umm Sulaim’s Thoughts (https://iamummsulaim.wordpress.com).
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