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PANIC grips NIGERIAN LADIES over SCARCITY OF MEN

By News Express on 06/09/2013

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The recent alarm raised by the Catholic Women Organisation that husbands would become scarce in Nigeria in 2023 may just be right, according to a report this afternoon in the Lagos daily, P.M.NEWS. The paper said it “can confirm that many Nigerian spinsters are currently witnessing the no-husband syndrome,” adding:

“Within the last few weeks, some of the ladies who spoke with our correspondent reported serious apprehension, pressure and a total lack of peace as the consequence of their inability to get married.”

P.M.NEWS quoted one of the ladies, who preferred to be simply called Titi, as saying that she had taken the issue of marriage as a do-or-die affair due to “internal pressure” but that as much as she had tried, frustration had often been the result.

A 37-year-old businesswoman who sells clothes in Ikeja, the Lagos State capital in western Nigeria, told P.M.NEWS that she is not finding life easy.

“What is happiness without a man in a woman’s life?”she asked during a chat on Badoo, a relationship site on the internet.

She had dated several men with some promising marriage, but without fulfilling the promise. Hear her:

“You can’t imagine that in the last three years, I have dated about eight men, but the relationship was often short-lived simply because I ask for their commitment.

“I am not getting any younger and I cry every time I see my mates with their husbands and children.

“If at 37 I don’t have a child or a permanent man, when would I have them? Is it when my skin has wrinkled?”

P.M.NEWS also cited Chioma (surname withheld), 35, whom it said has found herself patronising many of the social interaction sites on the internet.

The banker told the paper that she is on Eskimi, 2go, Badoo, Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter as well as 4clique, a site that was launched in Nigeria days ago.

“We can’t tell the particular broom in the bunch that kills a fly,” she told P.M.NEWS on why she patronises such number of social interaction sites.

“I always change my name in the different sites but the ultimate goal is to get a husband,” she added.

Chioma told P.M.NEWS that she is really worried about the situation, adding that she lives comfortably (in a mini-flat and has a car), “but who do I have to enjoy this comfort with me?

“I have tried a hook up programme on a Lagos-based radio station, but my age is now a major factor hindering my dream of being married,” she lamented pleading with the reporter, a married man, whom she considered a bachelor, to “help dry my tears.”

A married woman, who gave her name as Mrs. Blessing Aguebor and resident in Oshodi, confirmed that the issue of lack of serious men for marriage is giving many ladies sleepless nights.

She narrated the touching story of her friend who was disappointed by her boyfriend of five years when it was time to “settle down”.

According to the woman, “My friend was 29 when he met this man in Benin and they dated for five years. The man was always giving the lady hope without her knowing the man had other plans. The year he fixed for their marriage was the year he travelled abroad without even informing my friend.

“It was later he called her and asked her to find another man because he still had many more years to hustle. My friend almost went mad.

“She is 36 now without a man. I had to convince her to relocate to Lagos so that possibly out of the population here, she would find someone. It is pathetic.”

A 38-year old business woman in Ketu, Mrs. Rita Adewunmi, narrated how she lost her first husband to a friend, Idayat, who was desperate for a husband.

According to Mrs. Adewunmi who remarried last year, Idayat was 36 and needed a husband but her search was endless. Her words:

“I was always encouraging her and made her a part of my family. She would always help me take care of the kids when I go to the market.

“With time, she took over my husband without my knowledge until the day I caught them red-handed and that was the end of my marriage. Ladies are like hunters these days.”

Asked why she was not married at 34, Blessing Osuoha, a nurse with a private hospital in Abuja, retorted: “That is why I’m on this social site. Why are you asking? Is it a bad idea if you propose to me?”

She explained that life was becoming unbearable without a husband.

“My friends and family members are aways asking when they would come and ‘chop’ rice, and I keep hoping,” she added.

A marriage counsellor in Lagos, Mrs. Victoria Aliu, told P.M.NEWS that scarcity of ‘real men’ is becoming a terrible condition for women ready for marriage.

She blamed the problem partly on the Nigerian economy, confusion among the bachelors on their choices of the women they want as wives and the attitudes of the spinsters.

“Many women, whether consciously or not, behave irritably sometimes, forgetting that the man just beside them at every point in time may just have been nursing how to start a conversation that could lead to marriage.

“Some other ladies are very choosy and unserious at their early stages of adulthood. They only open their eyes to discover that their friends are all married and that they are the only ones left at the bus stop. Then it becomes a terrible case for them,” she explained.

•Photo courtesy thecosmopolitannigeria.com shows a group of Nigerian ladies.

Source News Express

Posted 06/09/2013 8:34:17 PM

 

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